It’s critically important to live in a world in which people aren’t shamed, discriminated against, or mocked for their sexuality. To inhabit an environment where people of all sexual preferences and from all lines of life are respected, from lesbians to people in full-time BDSM relationships to poly families to much, much more. We live in a heteronormative culture and one in which only a narrow type of sexuality is considered acceptable, making it vital that we push for acceptance of all people, all bodies, all consensual relationship configurations.
That includes, though, the asexual community, and it also includes people who may have a conflicted or even tormented relationship with sex. The rape survivor in recovery who does not want to be touched, for example, let alone be in a sexual relationship — she doesn’t need to hear at every turn that sex is so fantastic, rah rah rah. The sex-averse asexual person, likewise, doesn’t need to be constantly pressured to have sex, to be told that she will enjoy it if she just tries it; these kinds of attitudes, that everyone must like sex, are scarily close to the corrective attitudes slung at gays and lesbians, who are told that they just need to try having nice normal heterosexual partners and they will be normal again.
There is nothing abnormal about not experiencing sexual attraction or not being interested in sex, nor is there anything abnormal about needing to work through some things on your own after experiencing sexual trauma, including rape, incest, child molestation, and other traumas. While your lack of desire or inability to have sex might be rooted in trauma, it doesn’t mean that you’re broken or that there’s something wrong with you that needs to be fixed, nor does it mean that the people around you have the right to insist that you need to join the sexual world.
The Texas GOP has officially endorsed reparative gay therapy. Click here for more from The Daily Show.
If you take a young man and woman and they both tell a stranger that they work in the same restaurant, it’s very likely that they will assume that the woman is the waitress, and the young man a cook.
But I thought a woman’s place was in the kitchen? Not when she’s being paid for it. I can’t believe it took me this long to realize the implication of this. A woman’s place is one of servitude.
we’re such assholes in the US omg
if there was a POC country on the other side the white europeans would be pulling the same shit. or have we been ignoring the rise of the right and the general racist climate of europe. who teh hell you think the white americans descended from?
I present the border between Spain and Morocco, aka Europe and Africa…
Be proud of your place in the cosmos. It is small, and yet, it is.
the thrilling saga in which Panic! owns the fuck out of WBC
A+ handling of the situation
I can’t remember where I found this originally, but it remains one of my favorites. It reminds me of that line in Tim Minchin’s Storm - “Because throughout history, every mystery, ever solved, has turned out to be… not magic.” ~JJ
birth control pills:
- can treat cysts, endometriosis, pcos, and other potentially life-threatening conditions
- can lessen severe symptoms of menstruation
- can treat hormonal imbalances that result in severe acne and other side effects
- can prevent pregnancy from ever occurring
erectile dysfunction drugs:
- give you an erection